RELATIONSHIPS

Did your husband forget to take out the garbage again?

 

As humans, we have a habit of linking our feelings - good or bad - on other people. We say "she makes me so happy" or "he makes me so mad". The truth is, no one can make you feel anything. Your feelings are determined by your thoughts, which means it's your thoughts about that person that make you feel happy or mad. When someone meets your expectations that you have of them, then you have positive thoughts about them. Conversely, if someone doesn't meet your expectations, then you have negative thoughts about them.

 

The problem is that you can't control other people to make sure they meet your expectations. That means that your happiness is at the mercy of other people – leaving you powerless. The good news is that you don't need to change anyone. It's possible for you to truly enjoy your relationships with your spouse, kids, family, and friends – without needing them to change.

 

You're capable of improving your relationships. I can help you.